Dude Looks Like A Lady!


Of all the things in the world, I would never ever in a million years want to be a male LADY-bug. Think of all the cruel jokes the other insect species would make; it just gets my head spinning. Having said that, I’ve always wanted to see these beautiful creatures up-close and luckily while visiting the Kenilworth Castle last year, I stumbled upon a few of these hiding inside the pavement cracks. Their vibrant polka-dotted exteriors give them a very happy-go-lucky feel, but on closer inspection, I saw something that actually made me sad. This particular bug, shown in the picture above, has a dent in its (gender unknown) left wing; I don’t know what might have caused it, but I really felt for the little guy/gal. It kind of made me reflect how fragile we all are, and that no matter how happy we may seem on the outside, all of us harbor some sadness within.


A short while later, I saw another bug approaching the dented one and both of them receded further into the crevice, crawling at their respective paces, together. It was refreshing to see how the dent on one’s wing did not seem to have an impact on their mutual relationship. We all have our flaws (visible or not), some major, some minor, but in order to truly accept each other, we need to look past them and love each other unconditionally; funny how a couple of bugs can inspire you to understand the nature of things in general.


Words of Wisdom: Price-tag

Dreams are free; it’s reality that puts a price-tag on everything.

Words of Wisdom: Failures

The richer (or more famous) you are, the easier it is to admit your past failures; for us simpletons, it can be held against us!

Ramadan In Tweets

I never was much of a Tweeter but something changed exactly a month back. A Twitter-friend suggested I should Tweet more often so I got my Tweet-on this Ramadan. 140-character limit doesn’t quite cut it for me as I am someone who likes large sentences and elaborate descriptions, so I took this up as a challenge. Sometimes, fewer words make a bigger impact and to demonstrate my Tweet-ability, I present to you my tweets for the last month.

  • 21 Jul – #RamadanRoadRage is in full swing; let’s see how many street fighters I can spot on my way back home.
  • 21 Jul – #BestThingsAboutRamadan – my Non-muslim friends observing fasts just to experience what Muslims go through.
  • 3 Aug – #RamadanFacts: Kissing your daughter doesn’t break your fast, no matter how sweet her cheeks may taste! #Love
  • 3 Aug – #LetYourDaughter ask as many questions as she wants and answer her every time she asks them; it won’t be long before she discovers Google!
  • 5 Aug – #NoteToSelf: Never share hilarious husband-wife #jokes with your#wife esp. if it’s the wife who ends up being the #butt! :p
  • 5 Aug – Who says little #girls aren’t naughty? Damn you, #GenderEquality /#WomensLiberation! 😀
  • 7 Aug – #DonatingBlood for all the wrong reasons; “Are we done, ’cause I could really use a juice box right about now.”
  • 7 Aug – #Twitter = Tutta! My 17-month old #daughter‘s foray into this high-tech world.
  • 8 Aug – #14August is just around the corner; time to renew our patriotic vows and forget them for the rest of the year. #PakistanZindabad
  • 8 Aug – #Ramadan is not just about giving up food and drink for a prescribed amount of time; it’s about moderation, preservation and self-control.
  • 9 Aug – #BeingMarried means having to ALWAYS pickup groceries on the way from the office; no excuses. Just make a weekly list or something, woman!
  • 9 Aug – #PakistanHas the best cuisine in the world. You should give it a try sometime! Get your juices flowing at http://bit.ly/wZMFy3 
  • 10 Aug – My 17-month old daughter’s brushing my hair; how adorable is that?! 🙂 #parenting #love
  • 11 Aug – Why’s it so easy to take photos but difficult to delete them? Guess I just get emotionally attached to them, not to forget the memories.
  • 11 Aug – Sab se pehlay #Pakistan; unless keh aap ki US, Canadian ya Australian immigration ho jaye. 😉
  • 12 Aug – The #camera is an extension of a #photographer‘s being; you just can’t feel complete without it.
  • 13 Aug – Waiting for the final casualty count in Karachi aerial firing; Happy Independence Day folks! #PakistanZindabad
  • 14 Aug – #Karachi: a city with amazing photo opportunities; if only I were brave enough to take my Nikon D7000 without the fear of getting mugged!
  • 15 Aug – Wife’s phone ringing in the bedroom; 1.5 yr old daughter brings it to her in the kitchen and says, ‘Mama – Hello – Papa’. #love #kids
  • 16 Aug – Out of sight, out of mind; unless someone regularly pokes you on#Facebook!
  • 16 Aug – #RamadanFacts: You know Eid is upon us when you spot dads waiting outside stores with their bratty kids while moms shop away their savings.
  • #RamadanFacts: Pakistanis still hope to have 29 rozas even after Saudi has declared they’ll have 30. Insha Allah!

If you find some of these remotely interesting/goofy, start following me @YousufBawany.

Punishment for Breaking Ties in Islam

When I look around me, I see people breaking-off ties with their close relatives as if nothing matters, siblings not talking to each other for days, weeks, even months at a stretch. I am a mortal and have done the same on more than one occasion. Thankfully for us, Islam comes to the rescue and explains the importance of family ties and brotherhood.

Just thought I’d search for some references from the Qur’an and Sunnah to help everyone understand the importance of family and how breaking ties will effect us in this world and the here-after.

The following is a collection of interpretation of verses from the Holy Qur’an:

“The believers are nothing else than brothers (in Islamic religion). So make reconciliation between your brothers.” (49:10)

“… and fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of ) the wombs (kinship)…” (4:1)

“And those who break the Covenant of Allah, after its ratification, and sever that which Allah has commanded to be joined (i.e., they sever the bond of kinship and are not good to their relatives), and work mischief in the land, on them is the curse (i.e., they will be far away from Allah’s Mercy); And for them is the unhappy (evil) home (i.e., Hell).” (13:25)

“Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight.” (47:22-23)

A lot of ahadith explain the importance of family and the implications of severing ties with your relatives:

Anas bin Malik (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Do not desert (stop talking to) one another, do not nurse hatred towards one another, do not be jealous of one another, and become as fellow brothers and slaves of Allah. It is not lawful for a Muslim to stop talking to his brother (Muslim) for more than three days.”[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “People’s deeds are presented before Allah on Mondays and Thursdays, and then every slave (of Allah) is granted forgiveness (of minor sins) if he does not associate anything with Allah in worship. But the person in whose heart there is rancour against his brother, will not be pardoned. With regard to them, it is said twice: `Hold these two until they are reconciled’.” [Muslim]

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “It is not lawful for a Muslim to forsake his (Muslim) brother beyond three days; and whosoever does so for more than three days, and then dies, will certainly enter the Hell.” [Abu Dawud]

Abu Khirash Hadrad bin Abu Hadrad Al-Aslami (May Allah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Prophet (PBUH) saying, “Whosoever forsakes his brother for a year is like one who sheds his blood.” (Abu Dawud)

The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The one who maintains a relationship with his relatives only because they maintain a relationship with him is not truly upholding the ties of kinship. The one who truly upholds those ties is the one who does so even if they break off the relationship.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5645).

“There is no sin more deserving of having punishment meted out by Allah to its perpetrator in advance in this world, along with what He has for him in the next world, than oppression and severing family ties.” (Tirmizi)

“Does not enter Paradise he who breaks up his family ties”. (Bukhari)

This is an eye-opening compilation and should serve as a basis of all our present and future relationships. If you think you know someone who is in the middle of a personal/family feud, please forward this to them and ask them to fix their ties for Allah’s sake.

Thank you and remember me in your prayers.